Sandra Bullock is one of my favorite actresses.
If I know she is in the movie, I’m going to watch it. As I’ve been thinking
about what I want to say to you today this scene from Practical Magic
continually came to mind. Now, it doesn’t show you the part that I continually
thought of, so let me tell you what happens next.
The dead boyfriend’s ashes begin to fall from
the ceiling (his name is Jimmy and they
just banished him from Jillian) and one lady yells, “Let’s Clean HOUSE Ladies!” In this rough scruffy voice, I really
wanted to find a clip with that particular part, because that’s what I keep
hearing in my head over and over that I want to say to you. “Let’s clean house Ladies!”
I also want to point out that at the beginning
of this scene, Sally (Jillian’s sister)
has activated the phone tree and called every WOMAN they know, even those that don’t like them or have talked bad
about them, or have secretly been curious about them and guess what Sally did?
She asked for HELP!
Each woman walked
into that house with a broom, prepared to clean! They had a plan and they had
support, from even those they least expected it of.
Why is this on my mind and what on earth is the
point I’m getting to? What’s on my mind? Positivity. What’s my point?
We need to clean house on the inside. I see you’re still a little bit lost, so
let me explain.
How many times a day do you disrespect
yourself? How many times a day do you look in the mirror or simply think the
following things:
- I’m fat.
- I’m awkward.
- I’m boney.
- I look pregnant.
- I look sick.
- I’ll never get it right.
- I’m never going to lose weight.
- I’m never going to gain weight.
- I’m stupid.
- I’m not good enough.
- I’m a bad mom.
- I’m a bad wife.
- I’m a bad friend.
- I can’t do it.
- I’ll never look that good.
- I’m invisible.
- My nose is too pointy.
- My eyebrows too bushy.
- My legs too short.
- My feet too big.
- How many times have you cried in that dressing room?
Should I go on and list every insecurity and
lie you’ve told yourself? I'm sure there are YEARS of buildup. Would you say these things to your best friend? Would
you seriously tell her “Your nose is so
pointy I should nickname you Pinocchio”? Of course not! How rude and
disrespectful is that! What kind of friend would you be? So then why on God’s
green earth are you talking to yourself like that!
How does it make you feel when someone says
something disrespectful and rude to you? Like one I heard recently… “Why are you trying to lose weight? No one
will ever notice you.” If someone said that to you, how would it make you
feel?
Angry, Sad, Hurt, deflated, crushed…like you
shouldn’t even bother? Right?
So let me ask this again, WHY are you talking to yourself like that? You are hurting YOU and you don’t even know it! The
mind is a powerful thing! You have probably heard me say and if you haven’t you
will… a lot; “the body will not go where
the mind will not take it.”
If you mind is over there talking smack about
how much you suck and how you’ll never be able to do 10 sit ups, run a 5K or
lift 200 pounds with your legs – then guess what? You won’t. Simple as that.
You already told yourself no. You already told your body that it isn’t strong
enough or good enough. What a crock!
All that constant negative chatter going on
inside our heads is holding us back; it’s keeping us from living the life we
were made for. It makes us miserable, frustrated and depressed and sometimes we
don’t even know it!
We have to be very aware of the way we talk to
ourselves, and don’t tell me you don’t - honey - cause everybody talks to themselves. You
don’t really think I believe that you are just sitting there with an empty head
and nothing running through that beautiful mind of yours, do you? Good, cause I
don’t.
It’s like when you walk into a room to get something;
only once you get there you can’t remember what it was – so you start mumbling
to yourself, “Now, what was it I came in
here for?” Your mind is always running and it can run away with you!
Not too long ago, my Mom and I had a discussion
about cremation. Stop asking if this
thought train just derailed, it didn’t. She wanted to know my thoughts on
it. Well, I wasn’t sure how I felt about it or what my thoughts were on it. I
did some asking. I did some research. And then with my brilliant mind, I made
my own decision. MINE. Not yours,
not hers and not anybody else’s. What I decided was this…
I am a Christian, so obviously I looked to the
Bible for my answer. The Bible from my viewpoint wasn't real clear on this and if it was it would have
bit me on the nose. I am also a creative person. I like to make pretty things
with paper. I like to use my hands.
So, I thought to myself (see already talking to myself); “how would I feel if I worked so hard on this beautiful scrapbook album
and gifted it to someone, only to eventually watch them burn it?” I worked
so hard on it! I put my heart and soul into it and they burned it?!!! I’d be
crushed, devastated!
As a Christian, I believe I am created by God.
I am HIS work of art. There
is not another me. I am the only me there is. God believes me beautiful and wonderfully
made. “I am the apple of God’s eye, a
treasured person.” Psalm 17:8. In other scriptures it says, “I am God’s treasured possession.” I am HIS work of art – how can I burn
his creation?
Furthermore, how can I treat HIS creation the way I do? Have
I no respect?! Talking smack to myself, telling myself those horrible negative
things? Is that really what I think God believes of me? Scripture says
otherwise, doesn’t it?
So Ladies, here is my challenge to you – STOP the negativity! It’s like
mindlessly scrolling Facebook – DRAINING!
As soon as you catch yourself doing it – STOP.
You know that movie Parental Guidance where
they are saying, “use your words” and
anytime you put someone down you have to give them 3 put ups? Every time you
catch yourself - disrespecting yourself – I want you to stop and think of 3
positive things and say them - out loud. Heck! Write them on a post-it and
stick them on your wall! I want to see them!
We’ve got to clean house ladies! We’ve got to
get that dead-beat jerk of Negativity banished! Respect yourself and the
wonderfully made creation that you are enough to stand up to your own negative self-talk.
You are so much more than you believe – so do yourself a favor and get out of
your way!
You have help and you have support even if you
don’t realize it yet. So pick up that broom my friend, and let’s continue on
this journey to an all around healthier lifestyle.
With much love,
~Coach T~
